Sometimes, It’s Not What You Think

Andrea PeckCommunication, Leadership

The happiness of our lives depends upon the quality of our thoughts.  Marcus Aurelius

I’ve tried meditating many times over the years but never stuck with it.   However, since March 2020,  I’ve committed to a daily practice.  It wasn’t because of Covid, but it was a result of  hiking with a friend during Covid.   It was during one of our many hikes that I learned how her four year meditation practice changed her life: not only did she lose weight,  but more significantly, she no  longer carries  any traces of lymphoma  in her body– something her doctors said she would have  the rest of her life.

So,  it got me wondering what a regular practice could do for me.  I don’t have any serious health issues, but I was curious about the mental and emotional benefits.    Too often,  I notice  negative, limited,  judgmental thoughts, or even too many thoughts,  clouding my  perspective and  distracting me from what’s true.

Meditation is  just one of many mindfulness practices.   And while mindfulness is often  associated with our personal or spiritual  lives,  it can offer valuable workplace benefits.

BACKGROUND

Studies show that we process 16 to 60 thousand thoughts a day.   Of those thoughts, 95% are  repetitive while  80%  are negative.    Bottom line? Unproductive thinking is part of the human condition, and that’s where mindfulness can help.

Definition

Mindfulness is “a mental state achieved by focusing  one’s awareness on the moment, while at the same time calmly acknowledging and accepting feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations.”

By being present,  we can start identifying negative or unhelpful  patterns, recognize that we are separate from our thoughts, and  choose, if needed, a better response, even if it’s just acceptance.

Types:    There are many ways to promote mindfulness:  eating, standing, walking,  feeling  feelings, focusing on the breath,  doing one thing at a time, engaging in physical activities for which we have a passion.

REASONS WE DON’T   

We think It’s too hard to calm our mind.   It’s a weird cult thing.  It’s too spiritual, or we’re not the type.  It seems unproductive; we want action and immediate results. We’re attached to the way we do things and don’t want to change

Diagram of Emotional Intelligence WHY WE SHOULD    

There’s lots of research that mindfulness contributes to Emotional Intelligence: the ability to manage, use,  and understand  emotions in positive ways,   In the workplace,  that can translate into increased productivity, respect, and  collaboration, along with less stress and more focus.

And More

It’s  easy to  get hijacked by our emotions  and then disregard or discount  what’s true or  possible—whether it’s dealing with a challenging coworker or taking  healthy risks.   By becoming aware of thoughts and feelings, we can learn to accept or acknowledge them without making  false meaning or allowing them to  define us.

Since noticing my own negative, limited,  and judgmental patterns, I ‘ve been able to put more energy into networking,  prioritizing work that inspires me, and  increasing my online presence,  even though I’m not always comfortable.   Would I have done this without meditating?    Probably, but who knows when.  Meditation has helped me to increase self-understanding and awareness resulting in the ability to move forward.  However, it’s all still a work in progress.

Mindfulness,  like anything else,  takes  practice,  willingness  and commitment.  Back in March,  it took a conversation with a friend  for me to realize I was ready.  What will it take for you to try?